Aussteigen: yes, i have a friend that you cannot talk about certain subjects cause it brings the devil out of him in conversation. Ie: religion, politics, and such. makes him mad to talk about it. so I stick with little things and we are great friends and get along. I guess it is because of the absolute opinions people make. Not that they are wrong, but they don't back down and realize we can agree to disagree. There is no fault in that.
Maclean: very grey area... That is why we should not judge. I think your right on my point. Pushing only pushes people away.
Also this is a theory that I liked and show the grey area. it goes: all things are neutral until you assign them a good or bad use, then they turn good or bad. So guns for example are neutral, use it for defense it can be good, but use it to kill Jackwagen (be a good sport now) and it now is murder and the object is bad. That neutral is the grey areas we so often see. Like the gun doesn't kill the person pulling the trigger does. Of course Ideas fall into this theory as well. Another example would be God created this or that, then it says he saw it was good. He assigned it good, but until that judgement it was only neutral.
However, there are some constants, your black and white, so don't forget most are variables, but some things are black and white.