Well, let me see if I can simplify and unpack it at the same time.
Yes, it is 100% true that I'm saying that there is no absolute right or wrong. I'm saying that relative rights and wrongs exist within the context of what we believe is valuable. It is worth noting that I'm not taking it from the standpoint of "there is someone else to blame".
However, the point I touched on at the end of the first long wall of text and definitely could have elaborated more:
"I think that if someone refuses to recognize and respect another's freedom, they cannot coexist with others."
The essential argument is that while no absolute notion of right and wrong can be proven, the conditions for coexistence can be proven so that if coexistence is valuable, then those conditions must be met.
In order for a society to function, the concession that coexistance is valuable is a necessary prerequisite. While I'm not saying that it can be demonstrated to be universally valuable, it's value as a means to an end can be demonstrated in many cases of people's differing ends.
I think it useful to make the distinction between something that has value as a means to an end and something that has value as an end in itself to be useful. A means to an end has an objectively demonstrable value because it's value is determined by relating its effectiveness at achieving the end. However, the problem with this method of determining value is that ultimately, you will either reach a dead end (the end in itself) or fall into circular reasoning. (Ex. The best way of getting in space is to use a rocket, but why the hell do we want to get in space?) People can disagree on the details of this, but ultimately there is a correct answer that is true no matter the person exists. The end in itself, the thing worth doing for no other reason than doing it, is not the same thing for everyone. Some people want to worship god, some people want to serve others, some people want to raise kids, some people want to restore classic cars, some people want to build building, some people want to play flash games, some people want to kill other people. It doesn't even need to be a single thing per person. However, the type of value that these things have is solely based on the type of value that someone gives these things. It's an entirely subjective value, the correct answer depends upon who is making the statement.
So if this is the case and we live in such a world, we're no longer looking through a lens of right and wrong. We've moved beyond them so to speak.
So let's look back to coexistence using the example of someone who likes to restore cars.
In order to restore cars, there are a certain set of conditions that must be met. If I determine it is a valuable end, I'll try to meet these conditions because I want to restore cars. Now, I need to have enough resources, I need to have enough health, and I need to be left to my own devices to actually do it. This is true of all ends in themselves. (*cough*lifelibertyproperty*cough*)
However... maybe you can see where I'm going with this... let's see the example of killing others. I need to fulfill the same set of conditions as restoring cars... BUT the end itself violates the conditions for another person. This is a contradictory end.
In one example, we can agree to create a situation where the set of conditions are mutually held in esteem so that we can go about achieving our different ends. On an individual and society level, we can achieve our ends individually or cooperatively without the need for creating conflict that jeopardizes the maintenance of this set of conditions for ourselves. The fulfillment of such an end doesn't necessarily incentivize others into preventing our fulfillment of such an end.
In the other, we cannot do so without some outside group for which we don't hold the same conditions in mutual esteem. On an individual and societal level, we create a situation where we force others into conflict and creates the need for them to deny us the conditions we require to achieve our ends. The fulfillment of such an end necessarily incentivizes others into preventing our fulfillment of such an end.
This is what is meant by contradictory ends. I intend this to demonstrate that respecting each other's freedom is the only means to coexistence AND that coexistence is valuable for the vast majority of individual ends
even within the context of nihilism in ethics.
The failure to recognize each other freedom is essentially self-destructive to any end, even if the end necessitates the failure to respect each other's freedom. By not respecting the freedom of others, we create a situation where they must not respect our freedom or forfeit their individual values.
Does this matter? Someone who enjoys killing may enjoy other things as well, so while I do not say that killing is wrong, I would say that in most cases someone who enjoys killing may see that it benefits the totality of their ends in themselves that they not go around killing people indiscriminately or perhaps they take some profession (I wonder which one I'm implying >_>) where they can achieve their end in itself in a manner which does not require they do so to anyone except those whose ends forced the issue.
So I would say that it is in the context of nihilism in ethics that negative liberty (not interfering with others) really makes sense as both an objective and non-contradictory value just about no matter what you believe or value. I did establish it previously in terms of it being non-contradictory and valuable for most subjective values, but I imagine that may not be enough... further evidence for reasons why such a position is best within this context is that it is (1) inclusive: which allows more people to take part in a society and also defend such a society, (2) incentivized: the reason for holding this position stems from any personal incentive one has for achieving almost any personal end(s) (3) realistic: the only 'losers' in such a situation are those who cannot achieve their ends peacefully, which are a danger to others in any situation.
Of course, I'm working within a partially nihilistic framework (in the sense that I'm assuming there is no pre-existing, absolute value outside what people value... yet not to the extent that I deny an objective reality or true knowledge). This is bothersome to many I imagine.
Now with the example of pedophilia, it is worth noting that I'm talking about negative liberty in the sense of requiring voluntary consent whenever you require an action from others. So we enter question of maturation and whether a child can even voluntarily consent to the act in question. However, this doesn't contradict the previous points. If the child cannot be said to be mature enough to voluntarily consent, then engaging in such an act definitely qualifies as refusing to recognize and respect another's freedom. However, many different countries and states have different understanding of the point where I child can be said to voluntarily consent to sexual acts. However, the definition of an adult is a very basic question and the general idea is clear enough that a child doesn't have the mental capacity required to voluntarily consent to anything. So if the child cannot voluntarily consent, an act of pedophilia qualifies as a contradictory end which I described earlier.
Going back to my previous statement: "I figure if there's anything worth killing each other over, it's differences in core values." I figure this is a good example: it's not worth killing each other over what would be a difference in definition when we agree on the core principle as it can be settled with reasoning and evidence, as in killing each other over the age of consent. It would be worth killing someone over what would be a difference in the core principle, as in whether it was okay to take advantage of children... and if the disagreement was with someone who refused to acknowledge altogether that children cannot be reasonably expected to consent, well, there's no hope for compromise.
In closing, it is for these reasons that I believe:
(1) Negative liberties
should be valued insofar as they achieve the totality of our individual, subjective values best. They have value only as a means to these ends.
(2) Where they do not achieve those individual, subjective values best, it is because the value itself is contradictory and self-defeating. Basically, it necessitates retaliation by the other to the extent their individual, subjective values are threatened.
(3) Worth noting that I think negative liberty is the
only idea that can be taken to the extreme without running into fundamental problems.
(4) In positing complete freedom, there is no way to deny complete responsibility. I am responsible for EVERYTHING that occurs as the result of my actions, whether I intended it or not. There is no factor that prevents my freedom to choose in any situation. Nothing you can do can make me choose to eat a lightbulb (for a light example). If I eat a lightbulb, the fact that you pointed a gun to my head is irrelevant. I still had freedom and chose to eat the lightbulb. There is no escape, no blame that will save me from the reality. Of course, I can attempt to deny reality... but that action itself can be demonstrated as problematic, in much the same manner failing to recognize another's freedom.
So in response to this: "But in my opinion the world has become so terrified of pleasing everyone that many are to afraid to voice what they feel is wrong and right."
I trust that I've elaborated enough where you can see that this is a much, much more developed form of nihilism than you may be used to. I'm not merely saying "there is no right and wrong", I'm saying that the underlying framework of understanding that is behind traditional notions of right and wrong, good and evil is fundamentally inadequate and inaccurate and in order to better achieve our own individual, subjective ends - the source of any notion of value and purpose - there are a set of conditions that we are better off promoting for everyone (and preventing the opposite of) whose value stems from each and every individual, subjective end rather than some arbitrarily posited principle.
And there is still no right or wrong.
Of course, I could probably explain better, but I think I did a pretty good job of making the whole position clear.
P.S.
"[God] knows what is right and what is wrong.
It cannot be defined by logic, arguement, proof whatever. So Scarlets convoluted comment above is null and void.
Like I said, [God] would agree that murder is wrong. If there is a rogue element then it needs to be forced to conform to [God's will]."